#22
Love Is Blind Sold a Wine. The Sober Guy Got Cut.
Love Is Blind turned its gold goblets into a wine. The same season, the one sober contestant's story never made the edit.
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Timothy SpillaneWe didn't ask for alcohol to be the default.
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How alcohol became the default, and what opens up when you question it.
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Not a recovery app. Not a quit program. A cultural space for people who feel fine but want more clarity.
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A different kind of book about alcohol.
Temperates: The New Culture of Drinking Less explores how alcohol became the default — and what becomes possible when you question the script.
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Calm screens. Quiet patterns. Nothing to optimize.
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The day's card, and one tap to log a moment.
Calendar
Months at a glance, one soft dot per moment.
Insights
Plain-language patterns surface as you log.
Meet Clair
She sees the pattern before you do.
Clair is the part of the Temperates App that talks back. Ask her about your own log: What did I drink last time I felt great the next day? Why am I craving a drink right now? Should I have one tonight? She answers from your own moments, supportive and never clinical, and often names the story underneath the drink before you've seen it yourself.
Clair, from clairvoyant. She sees it clearly, so you can too.
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what do you think about my choice to drink a glass of wine last night?
I think it was a good one. You logged calm before it, you wanted the taste, and this morning reads fine. That's the version of drinking that works for you. The martinis are the other version: you reached for those tired or wound up, and the next day came back mixed. Last night was a drink for the taste, not a drink for the mood. Keep those two apart and you're doing well.
I keep ordering wine at dinner even when I don't want it. Why?
Because it isn't a decision, it's a script. Six of your last six dinners out, the pour arrived before the menu. You never logged wanting it, you logged it being there. My read: order your drink after the food, not before. That's the moment the script runs, and a small delay is enough to break it.
Supportive, not clinical. Not a substitute for a qualified professional.
How Temperates compares
vs Reframe
Reframe is a structured neuroscience program. Temperates has no program to complete.
See the comparisonvs Sunnyside
Sunnyside gives you a weekly drink plan and a score. Temperates shows you your patterns instead.
See the comparisonvs This Naked Mind
This Naked Mind is a year-long coached program. Temperates keeps it light: a few taps a day and one essay on Sunday.
See the comparisonAre you secretly a Temperate?
Eight questions. No drink counting. Find out which script you're running.
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Writing on the new culture of drinking less.
#21
The Poison Is the Experience
Two shows I love took aim at NA drinks, and they aren't alone. TV used to sell drinking. Now it mocks the people who opt out.
#20The NA Beer Was Right There. I Ordered Two Blue Moons.
Two 16 oz Blue Moons equal almost three standard drinks. Plus the psychology of why I stopped ordering NA beer at MetLife.
More Writing
The Article Is From 2025. The Date Says Today.
A wine magazine put today's date on a podcast from February 2025. The guidance it treats as unsettled changed in January 2026.
September 2026
I Changed My Drinking in 2022. Did It Lower My Cancer Risk?
I stopped drinking regularly in 2022. Here’s what the evidence says about how cutting back can change future alcohol-related cancer risk.
September 2026
Nobody Came for the Whiskey
Distillers laid down billions in barrels for a decade of drinking that never arrived. What the glut says about drinking less.
August 2026
Athletic Brewing Scored Big at MetLife. Then I Tried to Find the Beer.
Non-alcoholic beer has won the argument about whether it belongs at the game. The next fight is making it as easy to choose as alcohol.
August 2026
The Harmless Drink Is a Myth You Tell Yourself
One old fashioned at my brother's wedding, in a year of drinks that were fine, taught me what "harmless" really means.
June 2026Now Streaming
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